We interrupt this story of Lola’s Cum Cube to bring you, hot off the presses, a steamy review of Nathalie Bardot’s A Hotwife’s guide to Cuckolding:The Subtle Art of Fucking Whomever You Want
A Hotwife’s Guide to Cuckolding – yes, that is a title that I could not pass up and that I knew immediately I had to read. I had to see for myself if this Nathalie Bardot was speaking from experience or merely selling copy. I had to find out if she had something to teach me or if I had seen and done it all. And I’m here to tell you, Nathalie Bardot is the real deal and there’s even a thing or two that even a seasoned slutty hotwife can learn from the pages of her guide.
As she tells us in the prologue, “there are actually people genuinely interested in discussing the cuckolding lifestyle. However, in this context, people almost exclusively refers to men.” Her goal with this book is to “describe the cuckolding lifestyle from a female perspective.” Yes, that is sorely needed. And if you’re a woman who is even remotely interested in having a thing on the side, then this book is for you.
I appreciate that she begins with “Definitions” and distinguishes between a cuck and a stag. The former often takes delight in being humiliated by the sexual promiscuity of the hotwife, the latter not so much. But, in either case, they both have in common a pleasure that is derived from the hotwife’s “satisfaction and sexual growth.”
If you read this book, if you have ever engaged in being a hotwife or a cuck, a stag, or even a bull or cuckqueen, there is one formula you should know and that this book repeats out of necessity: Have a solid foundation of love, trust, and excellent communication!
Many men/husbands will find this book useful (if they follow its instructions) because Nathalie is very clear that, though so many men want to see their wives fuck around, not every wife or girlfriend wants to live that lifestyle and Nathalie is explicit that this is about her pleasure, not his. If a woman derives pleasure from this arrangement, then her man may, as a happy “externality” (as economists put it) also enjoy it, but if she does not derive pleasure from it, then he has no business forcing this upon her.
Nathalie explains that introducing the idea (no matter who is the one to introduce it) should be gentle and exploratory. She recommends reading erotic novels “on the theme of the wife seeing other men and the husband really enjoying this” together. Might I suggest here starting with the collection of Match, Cinder & Spark about yours truly? She also recommends reading blog posts together about a couple in this lifestyle. Again, perhaps you might want to start with mysexlifewithlola.com. Just saying.
Nathalie has a whole chapter on the “benefits of being a hotwife” which include increased horniness, better sex with your partner, and my favorite – constant butterflies in the stomach, as well as that extramarital, post-coital “glow.”
Nathalie goes into a lot of important details about the lifestyle, including rules and the importance of following them, cock size and how, though it is not the most important aspect of a man, she does “truly enjoy getting stretched out” (as do I!), and how to find a bull.
A few other things that Nathalie and I have in common include that she sometimes shows her man her “newly shaved pussy before leaving, telling him I shaved exclusively for him. Of course, he’s fully aware that I’m being completely ironic.” And, when she leaves her man behind to go on a date, she is sure to tell him that “he’s not allowed to cum” while she’s out, “no matter what.” It was nice to see we share these little quirks.
I also appreciated that this is not simply a book to turn you, the reader, on, but to give you practical advice, like the chapter on insuring your personal security. Everyone thinking about getting into the lifestyle should start with that.
Finally, this book is not simply a steamy read that allows a glimpse into the mind of a sexy, experienced, and happy hotwife, but it helps you (whatever your role in the triangle you occupy) to navigate these complex and challenging, but fun and fulfilling, encounters with the benefit of advice from someone who has been there before and will cum there again!
Check out more of Nathalie Bardot’s writings here.
How to find a bull… that sounds hot! Thank you for sharing XOXO
Glad to be of service!