DEAR LOYAL FANS:
We are back, but you may notice a few changes. Some of the earlier posts are password protected. To get a password, please send us an e-mail: downloladown@gmail.com
You need not include anything in your e-mail, but some notes of encouragement are always welcome.
Sorry for the inconvenience.
Yours,
H.H. & Lo
DO NOT ENTER IF UNDER 18!
“It’s a male myth about feminists that we hate sex.” – Maude Lebowski, The Big Lebowski
“Write about what you know.” – Anon.
“Write about what you love.” H.H.
“Of all plots and actions the episodic are the worst. I call a plot ‘episodic’ in which the episodes or acts succeed one another without probable or necessary sequence. Bad poets compose such pieces by their own fault, good poets, to please the players.” – Aristotle
Herein is contained the account of Lola: feminist, lover, exhibitionist, nymphomaniac, woman. I, H.H., have composed these various prose poems of her various sexploits. Though the publication of these entries is intended to broaden the mind, liberate the spirit, deepen the understanding, and inspire the imagination, there is much here that those ill equipped to comprehend will find shocking, appalling, revolting, and depraved. In fact it is none of that, but rather a prolific love poem praising not only my love – Lo – but singing the wondrously multifarious virtues of human sexual embodiment. It is, in a word, an encomium to Love.
I hope you enjoy it.
H.H.
Dear Loyal Fans,
As some of you may know, Lola and I share the e-mail account for fan mail: downloladown@gmail.com
Thanks for all the love notes!
Yours,
HH
Contained herein is material not suitable for anyone under 18. I am tempted to say it is not suitable for anyone under the age of 40 – the age, according to Jewish Mysticism, at which one may possibly be ready to enter into the mysteries of the female aspect of God. Enter here only if you are prepared for content of a graphic sexual nature. I will warn those who do enter explicitly for material of a graphic sexual nature that this is not meant for you. This is meant for searchers of spiritual elevation in the depraved debauchery of the flesh.
Table of Contents:
With a Little Help From Lo’s Friend
Cinco de Mayo (Continued)
Apollo’s Light & Sappho’s Love
The Nympho’s Heat Melts the Heart of the Beast
The Life of the Mind: Lo’s Love of Literature
Society of Female Bodhisattvas
“I Love You Daddy,” a Father’s Day Tale
The Monk & the Maiden, or Thanatos & Venus
A Red Rose in the Land of White Lotuses
Liberation Theology Begins with the Self
Why Dads Make the Best Boyfriends
No Lo, You’re Not a Nymphomaniac
The MILF & the Babysitter, or Pandora & Her Box
You Are the Best Thing – My Little Street Corner Girl
An Intimate Encounter. . . With a Dirty Girl
The Insomniac & the Nymphomaniac
Superheroes, Fairies, & Pixie-lust
Nocturnal Commissions, Sins of Omission, and the Missionary Position
Portrait of H.H. as a Young Man
A Very Special Post. . . Lo Gives the Low-down on Lo
Cumming Together/Cumming Apart
Sausage, Strawberries, and Sex
Role Reversal – The Shock of Recognition
What is wet, a wild ride, and never afraid of getting dirty?
The House Guest – Part I: The Magic Flute
The House Guest – Part II: Sex Out Loud
The House Guest – Part III: Love and Loathing
The House Guest – Part IV: The Big Game
Lust in the Dunes – Part I: TCB on Vacation
Lust in the Dunes – Part II: Topless-Beach Reading
Lust in the Dunes – Part III: Bathsheba at the Beach
Lust in the Dunes – Part IV: Prospero & Miranda
Lust in the Dunes – Part V: Closet Exhibitionist
Lust in the Dunes – Part VI: The Aesthete & the Slut
Lust in the Dunes – Part VII (Finale): The Love Elite
XXX-mas Party (Or, the Year Santa Came Early)
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part I: The Games We Play
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part II: After a Night on the Town, Lo Comes Home
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part III: Abstinence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part IV: Boys and Men and . . .
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part V: Correspondence
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part VI: Take Two
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part VII: Criminally Minded
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part VIII: Great Sexpectations
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part IX: Cloak & Dagger
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part X: The Easiest Pill to Swallow
Silver Fox, Mynx, and the Hunter – Part XI: Blog Jammin’
Winter-lewd – Part I: Epilogue
Winter-lewd – Part II: Let the Presents Begin
Winter-lewd – Part III: Dangerous Curves
Winter-lewd – Part IV: Cope, Grope, Gripe, and Putting an Finger On It
Winter-lewd – Part V: Wherein Lo Explains the True Spirit of Christmas
Winter-lewd – Part VI: A Trip to the Hardware Store
Winter-lewd – Part VII: Grindhouse
Winter-lewd – Part VIII: I Pronounce You Hot-wife and House-husband
Winter-lewd – Part IX: Thinking Out Loud
Winter-lewd – Part X: Off the Hook
Lola is about the most amazing character that I explored in a very long time…
Thank you. Feel free to tell me about yourself and what you like about the blog.
Thanks for your positive mncmeot. I have to say that I am myself a little wary of feminist beliefs especially when it comes to sex.Most people, including most men, eventually conclude that sex is a more rewarding experience when shared with someone they love or have feelings for.However, some men especially younger men, are able to enjoy sex as a physical pleasure regardless of any emotional relationship. So for example, some men will happily contemplate sex with a stranger just for the sexual pleasure.Of course, some women behave in a similar manner and I am certainly not disapproving of casual sex for anyone. A bit of lust and passion never did anyone any harm in my book (consenting adults naturally).My point though is that men experience easy arousal and fairly spontaneous orgasm through sex. Women are likely to have much more difficulty enjoying sexual arousal and orgasm with a partner.This is no one’s fault, either the woman’s or her lover’s. Sex is not designed to facilitate female orgasm since it is not required for reproduction. Women orgasm most easily through masturbation where they can provide their own clitoral stimulation and focus fully on sexual fantasy.Sex with a lover can still be great fun: sensual, physical and intimate. The emotional aspects can be exhilarating for both sexes but unfortunately sex is unlikely to be orgasmic for a woman.This has been the greatest disappointment of my life and yet this is being very spoilt. The fact is that many women never discover orgasm by any means either with a partner or alone. I have learned to make the best of the pleasures available. I enjoy orgasm alone and the joys of sensual intimacy with a lover.
But some of us orgasm so frequently and so easily that God must have truly created us to be sluts and hot wives. Thank you Jesus
Useful information. Fortunate me I found your website by chance, and I am shocked why this coincidence did not came about earlier! I bookmarked it.
Very beautifully written blog, with ideas I wished were more widespread!
I have two questions on which I wondered what your opinion and Lola’s would be.
It is often said that women are ‘less sexual’ than men, in that women with high sex drives like Lola are much less frequent than men with similarly high sex drives. Is that so in the experience of the two of you — and what meaning would this fact have for religious (Tantric and otherwise) visions of sex? If one side wants it more than the other, does that not generate an imbalance between yin and yang, lingam and yoni?
Another question concerns sexual fidelity. As your progress into sexual awareness and ‘sacred sexuality’, does sex become a freer gift to be shared with all, or does it remain part of a relationship predicated on the ‘specialness’ of a partner? It seemed to me, both philosophically and practically, that the combination of a high sex drive, individual self-esteem and liberation, and a religious view of sex as a door to a world of holiness, would lead naturally to multiple partners. Is that not so?
Since I haven’t read all your blog posts yet, I understand you may have already answered such questions — you can then simply direct me to your texts, which I am sure I will read with interest.
Dear Asehpe,
Again I thank you for your most thoughtful questions. It is a common perception that women are “less sexual” than men. Certain studies show that this may in fact be the case. But those studies may be skewed due to social norms about gender and self-censoring that results. In other words, the results of the scientific research may be a self-fulfilling prophesy because of the predominance in the cultural psyche that men are more sexual animals than women. Whatever the case may be about the society at large and the science, anecdotally, I can tell you that until I met Lo I thought I was the most hyper-sexual person I had ever met. Unfortunately, I also happened to be rather inhibited about it and I rarely, if ever inquired of my peers how often they have sex, think about sex, or masturbate. But I can tell you that Lo outstrips me in every category. (Pun intended.) And, by her own admission, based on conversations she’s had with her girlfriends, she has more sex, thinks about sex more, and certainly masturbates much more than any other woman she has ever met. I have never met anyone – male or female – who orgasms on average approximately 5-8 times a day. Some days, it is true, it is only once or twice for her. But other days it can be as much as 20 orgasms (either self induced, or with the help of a partner). Given Lo’s incredibly hungry appetite for sex, she has cruised the internet for other like-minded and like-libidoed people. She has “met” a few guys who claim that they could cum 5-8 times during one session of sex, and that has intrigued Lo and whetted her desire, but thus far she has never met anyone – male or female – who could keep up with her.
As to your application of this “imbalance” to the mystical Yin/Yang, Lingam/Yoni, it is to be kept in mind that even in Taoist or Tantra lore, there are imbalances that occur. Yang is ostensibly more powerful than Yin, but Yin, by virtue of its “weakness” is stronger than Yang. The classic example of this is the stone and the water. The stone (Yang) seems stronger than water, but water (Yin), in its supple nature can go right around the stone to get to its destination or, in time, it can wear away the stone. It’s also to be kept in mind that Yin is not all Yin but has Yang in it and Yang, of course, has Yin in it.
As for your last question, the way I would phrase it is that the freedom of our sex (either with each other or with people outside our coupledom) is predicated upon the special bond we share with each other. Because we are in a relationship that is open – meaning a relationship of mutual trust, honesty, respect, love, support, challenge, and care – we are secure enough to have an “open relationship” in the more common sense of that phrase. However, having said that, I am completely content with Lo and feel no need for other partners.
But, if you or anyone else would like to know Lo’s feelings on this or any other subject, feel free to write to her at: downloladown@gmail.com
Or friend her on facebook at: Lola Down
Thanks for the comments.
Lola what colourful character. Hh you really write some quality pieces i am really impressed. Would be interested if the stuff you write about are real of ficticious experiences your girlfriend has had.
Keep writing your amazing
Thank you for your kind comment. Mysexlifewithlola had its genesis in my doing an internet search for other guys in my position: a healthy sexual appetite, but matched with a woman whose desire outstrips his by a long-shot. I found that few men are in this predicament, or at least they don’t write about it much. I began researching in a serious way the history and science of nymphomania, and, as I think I explain in a number of entries, it seems to me that Lo is a certifiable nymphomaniac, or “hyper-sexual” (as the current terminology calls it).
Finding little on the net that described my situation, I began writing about it and I found that the more I wrote, the more material I had to write – not only because of my past experiences with Lo, but because each entry I posted turned her on more. She would read them on the subway or at work on her smart phone and she would be all riled up all day long.
Now, as to your specific question, a lot of people have asked me if Lo is a real person. I can assure all of you, Lo is a very real person of very attractive flesh and very hot blood. Some of what I include in mysexlifewithlola is “fictionalized” in order to protect her identity and mine. But the bulk of what you read is based upon fact. I would call it “faction.” Fact + fiction = faction. It is a factional story. Does that help?
hi HH thanks for the insightful response. Its amamzing how you have dedicated so much time to something you enjoy with a passion.
I only wish more of us could take your stand. The subject of Nymphomani definatly floats my boat and I think you are write traditional research into wemens sexuality has been some what skewered to conform with social norms.
You have a brilliant life and girlfriend thanks for your blogs hopefully these can serve as lesson to other humans to open up an dexplore thier sexuality as a spiritual fascet rather than something that is merely for reproduction.
You see there quiet an interesting isalmic stance on the whole area around multip[le partners it si claimed by some islamic scholars that having multiple partners for a man actaully stimulates him to a higher being. When I say stimulate I mean in many ways socially, he’s thinking changes he becomes a lot more creative and posses the ability to think ”out side the box” he also sees situations in a totally different light.
It also makes him more of a man, it strengthens his will and creates a real character.
Unfortuantly there is no such opinion on what psychological effect multiple partners has on wemen. A shame!
Thanks
Tal
hello tal , i was reading your comment and felt compelled to reply
i’m a muslim girl and i think polygamy is disgusting and regressive
it\s a very selfish act from a man that women feel threatened about throughout their marriage
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Lola is someone I admire shes unafraid to be what she is I especially enjoy post where you tell what she said it is like a window into her thoughts.
enjoy posts*
Hey Nikki,
I saw your blog. Keep it up. Try to write every day. You’re young, but you’ll find your voice. You already have begun.
HH
Thanks! It’s nice to not feel alone in my sexuality!
Lo is overjoyed with comments like yours, Kathy.
Ooh, really looking forward to reading this blog….
Sometimes, I am distressed to think that I have a higher sex drive than my husband – but then at other times ecstatic to find that he matches mine…
I am nearly 40! Wow what joys I have to look forward to!
Dear Sophia,
Is it ok that I call you Sophia? I’ve been reading and enjoying your blog. I’m going to suggest it to Lo. In many respects your relationship resembles that of Lo and me. It would be fun for the four of us to get together for drinks some time. If only.
HH
Yes, please do call me Sophia! That would be amazing to meet you both! I think we are in different continents though… shame… one day maybe…
What a great surprise to find a great couple that understand a healthy way to live, I believe sex is the most beautiful gift from our creator, of course respecting all thinkings, how wonderful is to enjoy sex in a high level of understanding, congratulations to all…
Thank you Chazki. Respect is the key.
You should participate in a contest for top-of-the-line blogs on the web. I’ll advocate this site!
Thank you Kristal, I’ll look into that.
Very nice HH, sort of wish I had someone like you. thank you for stopping by and commenting and yes, I do enjoy reading about the sexual adventures of the sexually active, men and women. Again, thank you for the invitation.
Dear Next Door Girl, feel free to use any of the pics on this blog on yours. You have a keen eye for beauty and I’m sure Lo would be flattered. Please just include a link to: mysexlifewithlola.com
Thanks,
HH
I like your ways of seeing things and your PERSONA!! You keeps it real!!
I try to “keep it real,” though I occasionally worry that my drifting off into musings or self-contemplation may be a bit boring for some folk. Also, I’ve noticed that in comparison with other blogs I tend to be. . . how shall we say? Wordy? I mean posts of 6000+ words is redic!
I. Really enjoy reading your blog
Thank you Sean. I really enjoy writing it.
i enjoy seeing and reading about sexual. its nice
Hey HH, Have just nominated you for the ‘Tell me about yourself Award’
Feel free to not respond and just leave it at that etc…
SophiaX
Awesome site. We bookmarked to come back and check out your new posts.
Love your site! Shockingly similar situation in my life too! I love your insight into Lo’s mind, your understanding and diagnosis of her “Daddy issues”. Your posts have already helped me tons in understanding my girl’s polyamorous behavior. Added your site to my fav’s!
mysexlifewithlola I was recommended this web site by my cousin. I am not sure whether this post is written by him as nobody else know such detailed about my trouble. You’re amazing! Thanks! your article about mysexlifewithlola Best Regards Craig Agata
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Thank you for calling by my space. The premise of your blog fascinates me, and I am anxious to learn more of your views and thoughts. Your comment about possibly needing to be “over 40″ was quite intiguing, and it begged me to ask if we don’t conclude our gender or sexual “inquiries” a bit early and assume too much knowledge before we are ready. Wonderful content, my dear
I really enjoy reading your blog and I hope somday I can find my lola
Thank you. I hope you do too. In the meantime, feel free to comment on the stories and/or photos – Lo loves it!
Dear Darling or Bro: Because you have been generous enough to expose some raw, tender, or embarrassing side of your physical, intellectual, or aesthetic being, I have nominated you for the coveted TMI Blogger Award. Look here ( http://theoblack.wordpress.com/2012/03/31/i-got-your-tmi-right-here/ ) for the applicable rules. (Excuse the form-letter, but I have to post a bunch of these.)
Thank you sir! Very generous of you!!!
luvly
thanks guys for looking through my blog
will read all your post now.
I just found your blog. I love it. I am 54, look 45 and have the sex drive of a 35 year old. My web site is dedicated to married men who are in a sexless marriage. My wife (God bless her) and me have been together as of this June 27 1/2 years. Because of chemo therapy to beat 3rd stage break cancer……she is now cancer free and she got to keep her breasts. We made love and were sexual once a day. So that is once a day for like 23 years. Now in a sexless marriage my only sexual outlet is masturbation. Subscribe to my blog if you wish. I do not mean to offend but the blog has helped a lot of men. Keep up the great work. You’ll find pictures of me on my blog and various viewpoints of sexuality and marriage. Cheers, Lewis
Please excuse my presumption, but I have nominated you for the “Sexy Blogger Award.” Rules, should you decide to accept the honor, are at: http://theoblack.wordpress.com/2012/05/07/bilf-i-like-it/
I like the newer pics.
mysexlifewithlola Pretty nice post. I just stumbled upon your blog and wanted to say that I’ve truly enjoyed browsing your blog posts. After all I will be subscribing to your feed and I hope you write again soon!
Well well, a table of contents, great idea.
It took me a while to realize I what I was looking at on your image header. I saw another pic of your Bum on another post, so I guessed the pic is probably of you. Ballsy for sure
Thanks for stopping by my blog.
Exhibitionist – not ballsy. Thank you for stopping by too!
Dear HH, I nominated you for the meta awesomest blog award, which has the silliest picture in existence. If you accept it, you get to make up your own rules and share as many things about yourself as you would like.
http://storyofalice.wordpress.com/2012/07/27/lovely-beautifulversatile-inspiring-sunshiny-blog/
I love you guys (as in you and Lola).
Thanks so much! We’ll try to follow through with the rules soon.
xoxoxo
Lo & HH
You’ve been nominated (again!)
http://modestyablaze.com/
OK, I’m going to try this again, with the correct link this time:
You’ve been nominated!
http://deviantwench.wordpress.com/2012/08/02/an-embarrassment-of-riches/
Ah, much better.
Dear HH, Congratulations, you have been awarded the Hot Kiss Award. As recipient, please Link back to the blogger who nominated you.
Post the award image to your page. It is here: http://tangerinedey.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/hka.jpg
Share 7 facts about yourself. (Not required but fun to do.)
Nominate 15 other blogs and inform them about it.
Love,
Tanga
Another award for your collection!
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Hi just been reading your blog and will very much like to publish your articles on our site: pleasurethingz.com/blog. It’s built on wordpress, let me know your thoughts on this.
Please send us an e-mail: downloladown@gmail.com
I know you have quite a few awards, but I felt it only right to add this one to your list. > http://chantelc.com/2012/12/07/show-me-yours-and-ill-giveaway-mine-2/
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Great post, really enjoyed it!
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Really liked what you had to say in your post, mysexlifewithlola, thanks for the good read!
— Nestor
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I just wanted to thank Lola for her comment on my poem “Eyes”–I’m glad she liked it;) But of course, have discovered your blog and will continue to read with interest;)
Looking forward to reading more of your back posts!
Lo
Thank you:) Let me know what pleases you;)
Looking forward to exploring your blog. I am welcoming the opportunity of insight with regards to feminism and erotica. As a sensual, caring Dominant Man I am intrigued with the many paradoxes that (only seem to) exist within the dance of ourselves and with others. Arrived with a boner, staying for the wisdom & levity.
Looking forward to hearing more!
Thanks,
HH
Love your blog. Do know any BBC women/couples in FL?
Yeah, check our our “Links” page and a few of the women who have blogs there are into swinging/cucking and are from FL.
You’ve been nominated for the Sensual Blogger Award!!
http://lifeofalovergirl.wordpress.com/2013/05/10/mmmmm-my-pleasure/
Thank you!
I’ve nominated you to receive the Sensual Blogger Award! You may already have been awarded, but I’m doubly voting for you! http://redceedee.wordpress.com/2013/05/15/sensual-blogger-award-im-very-honored/
Thank you so much!!!
You’ve been nominated for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award.
http://bettyhomebanger.wordpress.com/2013/05/24/need-inspiration-look-no-further/comment-page-1/#comment-284